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Who doesn’t enjoy dressing up?
Part of being a part of Second Life is being able to dress up in any way you want to. In the virtual world your able to get together with your friends and then go out to Halloween happenings.
Right now in our real lives we are not able to due to the Coronavirus going around. I really do feel sorry for all the kids who just can’t go trick or treating.
Of course I am also sorry to all the adults since this is a time to have fun and party. As much as everyone wants to you just have got to take care of each other. No one really knows who does or doesn’t have the virus. After all it can take a week or more before people realize they have it and during that time the person can give it to someone else. This is why we wear the masks. Not because we enjoy it but to protect all.
In Second life we get to go out. We get to meet with fiends and we get to dress up for next to nothing in finance. How lucky we are to find this virtual world.
My partner and I have been going out and exploring all the different haunts out there. Kind of catching up with each other of course but also having fun and exploring.
We have been going out with so many of our friends as well.
The fun and laughter has been contagious. I have been going to bed on weekends around 1am and if you know me you will know I am a creature of habit. Usually I am only online a couple of hours and off by about 10pm to get things together for my work the next day.
I am taking advantage of the fun and friendship this Second Life world has had to offer with so many of my virtual friends and family.
I sure hope everyone is enjoying themselves. Having fun and trying to be as drama free as possible is just one of the many reasons to come into the virtual world and fight with the lag and crashes that happens so often.
Have fun with the couple weeks left of this spooky time of year. I sure am.
*Thanks for ready
As I look at all of the things I have done in the Second Life world I am often looking back to all the friends I have made. I have realized there are more then I could have imagined making in the real life world. Part of that is I am not afraid to simply say “Hello” as I pass someone while shopping or “Excuse me” when I bump there avi as the lag gets the best of me. Some I have added to my friends list and of course some I have taken off of my friends list.
As we meet more and more people we learn a lot about the person behind the avatar. One thing I have learned is not everyone respects each other. Many people see Second Life the way they are living it instead of all the opportunities and adventures it really is.
There are still many who love to talk and talk and talk. They may be living alone in their real world and don’t get a chance to interact with others. Of course with this Coronavirus it makes that even more so. I for one have missed going places and seeing people in the real world. I miss the vacations I usually take every year. I do not miss the stress of the things I was doing before. I use to volunteer in many places helping people but for now I kind of go to work and stay home with my real life family. Doing so has given me the opportunity to explore myself more and also Second Life more as well as my virtual friends and family.
My partner is back in Second life again after missing him for a year now. If you have read my blogs “Some I made private because they were to emotional sorry about that” you will see I was going nuts without him. One of the things I did get as a positive from it is learning to love myself more. I did a lot of things on my own and realized I really do like myself. I enjoyed checking things out by myself and even shopping on my own. I met new people and made a lot of new friends. One of the things I did get out of it all is the fact that my partner and I really do love each other it is not just a virtual thing. I am happy I waited and I believe this experience will help me appreciate the time we do have together and to learn to be happy with the small things in life. He is a man with many talents and by getting through the health issues he had and coming back even stronger in himself and in us has showed me he is one in a million. We have had quite a lot of conversations since he came back and I realize even though he was not able to be with me or even most of the time talk to me due to all the medication they doctors had him on that I was always on his mind and in his heart. Yes, this has made us a stronger couple. I am lucky and blessed.
I’m a lot calmer now. Might be that I am a year older at least in real life. *giggles but maybe because I am happy with all I have and feel like I have accepted all I don’t.
I remember reading once a saying.
“We were not put on this earth to have a Good Life or a Bad Life but to have a Life. What we do with it is up to us.”
This is so true.
Enjoy both your lives.
*As always thanks so much for reading.
During this Coronavirus most of us have stayed home way more than we ever did before. For myself I have not gone on vacation and by now I am planning or going on the second one of the year. “I get two a year through my employment”. We have all started doing more with the immediate family in our household if we are lucky enough to have people living in our homes with us.
Of course tensions have gotten stronger also during this pandemic. People are grouchier and snap more.
Unfortunately the ones who already have short fuses will be even more nasty then normal. They will be the type of people to look down on others and try to make them feel bad for whatever they feel is not what they believe they should be doing in their lives.
The same is true for the people in Second Life.
I am not sure if it is just more prevalent the ones who are opinionated, arrogant, wanting to hurt others in the name of justice for their views and opinions. Of course there are some like myself who just doesn’t want to get into stressful situations and stays silent or worse yet tries to fix the problem.
In my Second Life world I have so many different type of experiences. I have friends into so many different types of things from being a part of a Second Life family to working all the time in the virtual world to enjoying large groups such as Vampire clubs or Motorcycle clubs. When you join these types of groups be prepared to see just as much negative as you do positive. The term live and let live doesn’t apply to the heads of these groups. I have a feeling many of them have never learned to express their opinions with respect of the people they are talking to and to talk and not cuss and yell. To read up before they express their opinion and to realize there are always two sides to every conflict. I guess I have said before there are three sides. His, hers and the real truth in the middle. After all no one is ever 100 percent right. They may think they are but they never are. The right person is not the one who screams the loudest their opinion or the one who cusses every other word.
As I have said the Virtual World has many types of adventures. Many love these adventures and are not hurting anyone. They are just smiling and laughing and having a great time.
Of course there are those who feel what they are doing is wrong and they will shout to anyone who will listen how wrong the one doing it is. They want them out of that group and away from that community in any way they can get them out even if it hurts the person they are doing the damage to they just don’t care. After all they are the head of their world and so they must express it over and over and over again until this gets done.
One of the communities out there are the Furry community. I have never been a part of it but like everything else in Second Life I am always curious. It is a different community then the BDSM one of pet play. These people love to dress up in beautiful exotic animal outfits and play. Some of the families are like any other family with a community and parents and the works. Some love to hang out with just a few people who also enjoy it and find different Furry costumes to wear and then take pictures. There are even some who like to be sexual and feel it is a different way to enjoy the world of sexual play.
Of course many who have never studied what they are about and what they do in these costumes see it as a terrible thing and even go as far as to say they are into things that are banned in the real life world. They call it Beastiality. They never looked up the meaning of it and do not realize how wrong they are they only go by what they have heard or maybe pictures and see these pictures as such a thing. This is untrue in so many levels. The term “Beastiality” means for a human “person” to have sex with a real animal such as sheep and dogs. In order to be able to do that in the virtual world you would need to teach a dog how to use a computer and have the mind set to be able to understand and be a part of it.
When in reality the most two can do in the world of Second Life is two humans to put on costumes and jump on pose balls.
I am not into this although wearing these exotics costumes have interested me after all, don’t we all wear costumes of some form in Second Life? It simply means I am not doing that in my Second Life. I don’t judge or disrespect people. That is not what Second Life is about. It is sad when others feel this is something that it is not what it is and attack others for this. Of course the person who is attacking is wrong. This is not what is going on. It really doesn’t matter to the person who wants to abuse this person for being involved in any way with something that they feel is wrong. In their eyes it is wrong and because they feel that way they will make it known. It doesn’t matter if they do not wear the costume at their events or land that they pay for.
Life is full of abusive people and good people.
Life is full of judgmental people. Have you ever seen that Judgmental people never see the mess they made or that they are wrong. They always blame someone else. It is so and so’s fault or if we never let them in this would have never happened. No matter how many fires they start or how many people they hurt they never see it.
There is no way to go to these type of people who have always cut down others instead or talking with respect or simply closing off their area without starting something or not caming or clicking on their personal Flicker that causes Chaos and hurt and pain.
All I can do is listen to those who tell me about Karma. The ones who judge others are the ones who will be judged even more so someday. The ones who attack someone for being different are going to be attacked someday harder and stronger then they did.
I have seen so many terrible things in my life. I am always asking when are they going to get what is coming to them for hurting people. I guess they will get it in time and most likely I will not be there to see it. After all if I am watching, grinning and clapping that Karma got them then I would now be the judge now wouldn’t I?
The last I can ask is to stop and think before you speak. To not judge others and be respectful without doing or saying things that will hurt the person you do not agree with. Learn to live your own life instead of forcing your thoughts, opinions and feelings out for the group to watch. They may not say this to you but you are the one they are shaking their heads at.
As always thanks for reading.
Just because people come into Second Life doesn’t mean they are really very different. The ones that blow at the mouth at others before they think are in both worlds. The ones that lie about things are in both worlds. The ones that are giving and caring of course are in both worlds and the ones who can turn their feelings on and off like a light switch are also in both the worlds.
How do you protect yourself from the pain people can cause in the virtual world? I am not really sure I can answer this one because I have been on the receiving end of all the above from others I have let into my Second Life. I will give it a try.
*Note: the things I say in this and all blogs are my thoughts and feelings and in no way is associated with anyone or anything.
Ok!! When you come into the Second Life world you are coming in as yourself. Your avatar is fairly new and pretty much looks like all the other new ones out there. With time and lindens you make up your avatar to look the way you feel is most like you. You give it the eye color you invision and the skin tone you either have or wish you had and the figure that is of course most of the time in our dreams. Most people in real life do not have “shall we say” the Barbie and Ken figures. Some of us have stringy or gray hair and some are bald or almost there. Most of us probably have more weight on us then we would want and some are way beyond that but we get to imagine being beautiful and strong both inside and out without any imperfections or health issues.
We start to make friends and join groups and some of us are even talking to these people in the real world. Some of us even Skype or Discord and can really see each other. We find out some of the others real lives and start to let them into our own. We feel we are close friends.
Some of us fall in love in this virtual world. It is not unheard of giggles
After all we mostly are just listening to the others voice and if they don’t put some type of contraption to change their voice to sound like something they are not in the real world then we listen to the tones and can feel from their voice and Second Life Actions their feelings for us. In fact we are on cloud 9 in the real world feeling someone is loving us for us and not for the jobs we work or taking care of them or because we are married with real life kids. We are loved for us. Do you know how very amazing that is? It is something you really do not get in real.
Now for the tricky part. People can be deceiving in the virtual world. Yes, they can in the real world but remember in the virtual world you lead with your emotions. We do not see them or live with them or go out to a real dinner or movies. We are giving them all of us through our minds and thoughts.
So what happens when they no longer feel the same way? All of the sudden they start telling you things in real are to busy or their health took a downward turn or they really just kind of fell out of love with you.
Some will tell you they are not really who they said they were in the real world.
Some will just disappear.
I have even seen some fake their own death.
Is there anything you can do to bring what you had back? If they come back later or you found out some dark secret of theirs can you just move on and forgive and forget?
I hate to say this but most of us can not forget. Even if we forgive them and spend time with them again our trust was broken.
Yes, they can make amends and say they are sorry.
A real strong person. Strong in themselves and strong in their belief that all of us make mistakes and we must accept their amends and move on.
I will tell you most of the time I am that person. In real I have been lied to and thrown away and attacked and accused of things I have never and could never do.
Believe it or not the ones that have come to me and apologized and worked hard to show me not just tell me that I matter to them I have even brought back into my life.
I think that is the key.
Not just saying the words but doing them. Do not expect to say I am sorry and it all goes back to normal. Do not say I love you and then go back to whatever brought you two to that place. You must SHOW it and BE it. You must show the person you want them in your life. You must be the amends.
I hope with all that I have heard and seen lately that people get that and do something to show the people who have given their love and it doesn’t matter if it is friendship love or romantic love but the ones that gave that to the other should always been showed how much they matter and mean to you.
Thanks for reading my blogs
This is just one babygirl from Second Life thoughts.
A sister of mine left me a IM in Second Life last night. In it she told me that the guy she was with and her talked. They both decided they are better off as friends. I was so happy for her since I could tell she just was not being fulfilled in the SL relationship.
I started thinking about what types of relationships we all want in our Fantasy World. Some people do not want one in there after all they are in one in their real lives and feel that is enough for them and that is perfectly fine. There is so much to do and explore inside of Second Life that you can come into the world and be fulfilled and happy with the groups, games, explorations, friendships and families without going into a relationship.
There are some that are looking for something more to fulfill them. These people as in our real lives are looking for so many different things in this fantasy world. Some are looking for in the lines of being a different type of critter. I see many furries in this world. These are animals but not of the real world. Some can talk and some don’t. They look from head to toe of a critter that is nothing like humans. They even have their own lands and groups to enjoy. I have met many and see the happiness it brings them. The relationships are also in a couples way as well as family.
There are some that are alone in the real world and want someone but not 24/7. Second Life is the place to go for that. You can but do not have to also have that relationship expand to the real world and it can be something part time such as texting, Skyping, Discord or Facebooking. You can of course just keep it Second Life only. It is a bit harder since many have real life slap them in the head and they may not come on for days or months and without any communication in the real world how do you know they didn’t just ghost you?
Some are looking for something they can only dream about in the real world but because of having to do so many things they simply will never be able to find the type of relationship that is in the Second Life world. Also some may be in relationships in the real world but it doesn’t fulfill all of their needs.
One of the amazing things about Second Life is I have learned so much about myself and yes, my real self. I fall into the last category. I simply can’t get my needs met in the real world of the things I am looking for in Second Life.
We learn a lot about ourselves in there. We learn to let go of ourselves in a way we never even thought about trying in the real world. I think I brought up that many years ago in my Second Life I was told I was a submissive. That completely shocked me. You see in my first avatar I was taken by my partner to an all female BDSM clan group. There the women on their knees didn’t voice and were so slave like in the way they acted and did the things their Dominant told them to do I would or run for the hills. I became friends with the Head Mistress’s slave in fact her name was Pet. Yes her avi really had that name. My partner wanted to talk with the Queen mistress so he sent me to go “as he said” play with her. They had so many learning tools out on the land. Really all I wanted to do is learn to ride a Second Life horse. Pet sent me a whole riding outfit with a crop and hat. I looked hot! Pet seemed so different with me just another girl like myself until her Master IMed her and poofed she was gone on her knees in front of the Mistress. So you see I thought this person was nuts. I could never be a submissive.
Through time and years and meeting different people and getting involved in different BDSM groups I learned there are many many different types of submissives just like there are many different types of Dominants.
It depends on if some of the things fulfill any needs that are not being met for you. I have always taken care of others and served so I can see why I get told that but as far as using it in the kinky way I had never done it until Second Life. I also started learning about all the different types there are and all the different types of needs a submissive has. What we never realized is that most of the time not all needs can be met by just one person. If you ever think about your real life does your real meet all of your needs? All your kinks? All your desires? We are all human so most of the time that answer is no. Then you gotta ask yourself can you live with not getting all those needs met? If that answer is yes then your perfectly fine and I am so very happy for you. For me that answer is no. What I need is not only to have someone control me but to care for me. To worry about me. To ask me if I did something they asked me to do. Another one of my needs is to be sexually kinky. I love spankings. I learned I loved them through my SL partner when he had me spank myself in real life in a anticancer way and a certain amount of times and with certain strength. At first it hurt and I do mean hurt but then the hurt became something different. It brought me to a place in my head that was sexual. I learned I have some masochist in me. I am also a babygirl and yes, there are some little tendencies in me as well. I want to be disciplined and taken care of. I have found that I like certian types of outfits that show off the babygirl/submissive in me. If I wore those in my real life I got a feeling I would be loosing jobs and friends. In my Second Life world I am accepted for the submissive I am. Another thing is I am learning about other kinks I like and other ways to bring out the submissive side of me. I love having Danni let lose and laugh and be nutty. I love to hear the laughter from my friends and family and partner and know I brought that happiness to the surface for them.
The truest part of the D/s relationship for me is the acceptance in the Second Life World of the girl I am. The way I am is fine and no one is telling me to grow up or stop what I do or wear or talk like.
Isn’t Second Life the most amazing place?
Thanks so much for reading
In real life we are all locked down due to the Coronavirus but in SL we can have a blast.
We all went to the Second Life Bahamas for vacation.
I got to visit with mom and dad more since we all have such busy real and Second Lives giggles.
I also got to see my grandparents, uncles, aunts and of course cousins.
Have you ever gotten drunk in a role play of SL? You can’t type and the fuzziness of everyone is so funny
It is fun to adventure out of the normal Second Lives and see what everyone is up to.
If you have never role played in SL this is a great time to do it. You go to clubs and drink and eat. Wow if I ate as much in my real life as I did in SL I would fall asleep and not wake until a couple of days later. *giggles
We will have to try another adventure real soon.
I saw it again.
Someone’s name changed from the last name of the partner she had. Again I thought these two were the perfect couple. In fact I heard they were living together in RL as well.
Yes, we are all real behind that computer screen and that avi is just a reflection of what we see ourselves to be in our real lives or maybe what we wish we see there.
My mother use to tell me when I was a kid that my grandmother in Italian since that is all she spoke use to say “If we all put our troubles on the table we would always take our own back!”
I guess that makes sense after all God would not give us more then we can handle right?
As I was cooking dinner for my family tonight I decided to pull out a can of peas for the vegetable. Yes, the easy way out but thought it would go with the meat and mashed potatoes I was making.
I made everyone a plate and put it on the table and called out to the family that dinner was ready. I then started to set my own plate up. I looked down at the peas and mash potatoes I had so far on my plate.
All of the sudden I was back in my 20’s again and looking down at my plate back then. You see my ex moved me to PA and we moved into a trailer park with lots of his cousins and their girlfriends. The younger generations. I had a baby then and no money. My ex did not get the job his cousin said he would get and so we were broke and living off popcorn and water since I had to buy formula for my baby with what little money I had. On those rare occasions there would be peas and mashed potatoes. I say mashed potatoes as a joke since we had no milk or butter and the water we used for it was yellow from the well. I am guessing it was ok since I am still alive but during the month or so that I lived there I lost 28 pounds and when his parents paid for a ticket and all of our belongings were left in that state just us and our baby came back and I finally got my first shower with clear water I saw my hair falling down the drain. Yes, I was malnutrition. I moved in with my mother who yelled more then she talked but let me and my baby move in while my ex stayed with his parents looking for work. I was so thin my mother was trying to get me to eat. I could only eat… you guessed it… peas and instant mashed potatoes. She had some of my teen age clothes still at the house and I not only fit in those very small clothes but they were to big. I didn’t understand the stress I was under because I was young and as we know when your young you pretty much don’t know much about life. I just wanted to feed my baby.
I am sure some of you read that and said to yourself well I have been through worse. Many probably did or in our perspective ours is worse. That is why I bring this up.
People change with time all the time. Second Life changes are no different. The people we meet, fall in love with, partner and then sometimes break up with is what makes us who we are today.
I never judge people. We all have our stories to tell. It only matters that we learn from them and move on.
Again, thanks for reading.
This has been a pretty rough day for me in my real life. Today is a birthday that I know longer celebrate. “OK so I can’t forget” The reasons are from my real life so I won’t get into it in this blog but to let you know it is something that is so horrific and happen so many years ago I should be over it but as you can see I am not.
On top of this my RL sister called to tell me our 90 year old father who is in a nursing home has contracted the Coronavirus. One of the nurses brought it in and of course didn’t wear her mask or do all the procedures that should be done so she gave it to him and the rest of the patients. He has only had it a week since they do two week testing but he already is not eating and showing those signs we hear about. My sister was fourth in line of the children born in the five marriages my father had. Yes, he was a piece of work but he is still my only father and I am already morning that as well today.
On top of all of that it has been six months now since my partner has been gone from Second Life. His health is still bad but they are finally planning surgery for him next month so he may be back. To say I miss him is an understatement. He was my best friend and also my lover. It is hard if not impossible to find that in any life. Harder still to let it go. I want to talk to him today but he has not come on the apps we use to communicate in the real world. He has told me the pain meds he has been taking knocks him out but it still is so hard since he is not only my lover, partner and friend but my Dominant and the one I need, want and desire to go to.
Thank goodness I am not a drinker or smoker or someone who does drugs. I am sure I would be quite drunk instead of writing this blog if I was.
My own real life has also been having a lot of troubles health wise and sleeps a lot. I check on him but as far as having a friend in my real life or lover that is not ever happening.
I am working on myself in Second Life. I did change up my avi but went back to please my Daddy who is not able to come online but expressed how much he loves my avi just the way she is.
I guess my fantasy life for right now will be in my dreams if I can get them to work.
Tomorrow is another day. For now with all of the sadness, in our real life world I am taking one day at a time. Things will get better. They have to. This is just one babygirl’s very bad day.
You know I was laughing last night having a great time and I realized I have been enjoying a lot of my Second Life without my partner. He has been gone six months now. Oh he may come online for maybe 30 minutes a couple times a month but all in all his real life has taken over. A lot of it I will say is not his fault. His health is in a bad way and his family is always there so his alone time is pretty well gone but still I do believe we make our own choices of what we want and what and who is important to us.
The first couple of months I went a bit nuts. Felt alone and lonely in Second Life. I will admit I valued myself based on a couple or a babygirl without her Daddy Dominant.
After I pulled myself up and started looking for things to do in my Second Life. I realized I am someone who values friendships. Not just one on one friendships but new ones and different people inside my life as well. I kind of started over in Second Life. I didn’t leave my partner or my old friends but started exploring different groups and becoming involved with new people. I realized I am someone who needs new in my life. Who wants to enjoy different people and see what else there is to do out there. Not everyone is like that. Many people just want the same group of people and will not go out there and meet others. Of course a lot of people are introverts and do not like change. I am the total opposite. I love meeting new people and value change in most things.
I have started different Second Life classes, started hanging with other people, and have made some new friends. I still am part of the groups I have been in and still host but I left being a Road Captain at my MC and started a new journey of being a Enforcer.
Even in my real life with everything going on and our stay at home ways I have worked a lot on my home and become closer to the family that lives in it. We have game nights and movie nights and I am happier now. It might be because I am not running around volunteering and doing for others but more doing for myself. This is something I have never done before. I always felt that I had to do for everyone else or they would get their feelings hurt or worse.
You know enjoying my life for myself in both lives has made me a calmer and happier person. I have even gotten where I pretty much use my cell phone as a step counter. Life is good. Life is special. We probably could have more then one Second Life but we can’t in our real lives. So make that one count!
I still love my partner. Miss him and hope someday he will return but he is not the only reason I come into my Second Life. I have no desire to start over and go looking for a different partner because I love the one I have and because I am really enjoying exploring what I enjoy in my Second Life for myself. My partner is not what completes me. I am what completes me.
Happiness comes from inside of us.
As always thanks for reading.