Inside the world of Second Life I believe we are all looking for one main ingredient. “LOVE”
Before you jump in the comments box and say that is not what your looking for at all let me explain what I mean.
Love comes in all shapes and sizes!
One type of love is the love for friends. We all get lonely in our real lives and look for like-minded people to spend our time with. During the Covid-19 pandemic we have all kind of become shut-ins. It is not what a lot of us are use to. Myself I was a person who was out day and most nights working, going to meetings, helping family and volunteering just to name a few of the things I did outside of my home. It was a shock to my system to stay home and do more for me. Kind of get to know myself and yes, love myself more. I learned that I was someone who enjoyed alone time. I even got more sleep in then I have in a long time. I read quite a lot and started projects on my home inside and outside. I think my home is cleaner then it has been since we first moved in. I was kind of a rare girl who really enjoyed my stay at home time. Not everyone does of course. Our world in 2020-2021 is a go out and find things to do kind of world. It seems embarrassing to say you would rather stay home and watch a movie then go out and hang with a bunch of people. Most of the time we all do want our friendships in fact I will have to say I lost touch with quite a lot of friends during this shut in time and not just in real life but in Second Life to. I found I didn’t want to sit in front of a computer much. I think a part of that is I found another love besides just friends….
Love yourself first. This one is a hard one. You got to be able to enjoy being by yourself and even enjoy the way you see yourself. We all jump on Second Life to change a bit of us. We give ourselves a pretty face and beautiful hair as well as a knock-out body. It is fun and exciting. I have twirled my avatar around to get good looks at all of her both with clothes and naked more times then I can say in fact if she was a real person she would be so dizzy she may not recover. *giggles Yes, I do love my avi very much and so does my partner. I have changed her look many times but all in all she is a very beautiful girl. So when I look in the mirror in real life with no make-up and no clothes on do I feel the same way? I do twirl myself in real to check and see where all the sags are and those doggone it wrinkles as well as my tits and ass just are not where they were even a few years ago. Wow!!! Do I love myself though? I will have to say, Yes! I do. I may not look like I did when I was 20 but that really doesn’t matter. I still have a look for my age I can be happy with. We all have things we want to change about our looks it is human nature. If someone looks at me and says that I should get this done or that done that is their opinion and it should not matter; as I love who I am and what I look like. I may work a bit on it exercising, eating right and taking my meds and vitamins but all in all time will play it’s cruel joke that it does to everyone as we age or should I say if we are blessed with the time to age. Life is just to short to wish for that 20 year old body anymore. I am what I am and proud of the girl I am in both lives. Yes, I do love myself.
Romantic Love. This one not everyone is looking for but I would have to say even the ones who say they are not interested have talked about it many times in my experience. Part of Romantic love is Fantasy inside of the virtual world. We, after all, most of the time are just using your mind and not our real life body. You’re living with this person inside of the virtual world and not in your own bed. Your having adventures and joining groups with this person that in no way you would ever be able to do in real life. Most of all your love-making and sexual attraction is a virtual thing …… or is it?
They say love is 30 percent physical but all the rest is emotional which means we feel something for someone and respond to those feelings weather your looking at the person or not. That being said, you still need that physical part or shall I say most of us do. You also in the Second Life world … hmmm probably in both worlds but as far as physical goes, unless you have a visual impairment in the real world your mainly going to need this in the Second Life world and that is TRUST! The type of trust I am blogging about right now is the person your falling in love with is telling you the truth about themselves behind that avatar. Some things you need to have the truth on is …
Age; As a person who has been around a bit I really do not want to be doing umm romantic-sexual things with a teenager. I will not discuss what that is called in real life but in Second life you kind of want to date, have romantic fun and may even partner someone who you have a lot in common with . Lets say kind of like the same music, clothes, dances, clubs, groups and so many other things. I for one am not into the “Head-Banging” music and neither is my partner. Now there is an acceptation to every rule of course but all in all we are looking for that connection and hopefully for a long time to come maybe even years.
Sex: I am all for being whatever you want to be in Second Life and even real life but for many of us we have a type we would be with and a type we would never be with. If you are a man and only interested in women you do not want to date and fall in love with another man. If that avatar you have been talking to in private IM is a man in real life you may want to know. It is that persons choice to be a different sex then they are in their real life but it is not the person who they are interested in choice. They need to trust you and deserve to know that you’re who you are perceived to be in Second Life and even have said you are in real life. The same holds true to a woman who is portraying a male avatar in Second Life. If your interested in women that is fine but they should know that your a woman and not a man. Their choices for their Second Life may not be with another women. In fact many simply would never even consider it no matter if this is a fantasy world or not. To start to have feelings for someone romantically as well as sexually is with the same heart in both lives. The pain and heartbreak when it does finally come out. Yes, the lies always do find a way to come out in the end. I have seen it more times then I can count. I can give you the ways but do not want to hurt feelings just want to be logical here. We are all adults or I guess most of us are. Respect is not something someone must earn you should give it to each other no matter what. Kindness and compassion are also things we should always give. There are literally thousands of people inside of Second Life. You can find someone who it doesn’t matter what sex you are behind that avatar but at least care about the person you’re having feelings for and becoming romantically involved with enough to be truthful about it. Isn’t it their choice to decide if they still want to go into the direction your all going into or to just have a friendship?
I have said this many times in my blogs but it bears repeating. When you fall in love in second Life it is with one heart! If the Second Life heart gets burned you are also burning that persons real life heart. Those tears are real and that anger, pain and resentment as well as sadness, hurt and mistrust are all of one heart. If you even care or love that person even a little bit even as a friend you should think before you do.
What does Love got to do with Second Life? A whole Hell of a lot in this girls opinion!
May all of your Second Life dreams come true with the friendships, family and romance of your Second Life.